{"id":1705,"date":"2024-07-29T09:14:57","date_gmt":"2024-07-29T16:14:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/?p=1705"},"modified":"2024-07-29T09:30:18","modified_gmt":"2024-07-29T16:30:18","slug":"looking-back-at-bad-decisions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/2024\/07\/looking-back-at-bad-decisions","title":{"rendered":"looking back at bad decisions"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/IMG_8359.jpg\" alt=\"wooden stairs go down from a green forrested area and end at a shallow river\" width=\"800\" height=\"1067\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-1707\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/IMG_8359.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/IMG_8359-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/IMG_8359-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/IMG_8359-525x700.jpg 525w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>One of my part-time jobs is having a big company retreat at a fancy resort in Vermont. This is a good opportunity for me to meet my colleagues in real life. Since COVID I&#8217;ve curtailed my travel to nearly zero (first for COVID reasons and now mostly for save-the-planet and &#8220;I&#8217;m a homeowner now and I like being here&#8221; reasons) and it is nice to get a chance for a change of scenery. The place where this event is held is like <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sprucepeak.com\/\">a Vermont Disneyland<\/a>, almost unrecognizable to me as Vermont even though the actual town is the same size as the one I live in. I work for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.alltrails.com\/trail\/us\/vermont\/barnes-camp-loop--2\">a small group<\/a> (maybe five of us) within a larger group of about 300 people. <\/p>\n<p>I showed up to the event and did not know anyone since my colleagues hadn&#8217;t arrived yet. I decided to go for a short hike. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.greenmountainclub.org\/vermonts-new-favorite-loop-hike-barnes-camp-loop\/\">The hike, which I&#8217;d researched online, said it was &#8220;moderate&#8221;<\/a> which me, a non-hiker, didn&#8217;t quite understand but I figured it was one step up from &#8220;easy&#8221; so I would be fine. And, ultimately, I was fine. But the hike was strenuous for me, someone who walks a mile or two most days, but rarely uphill. And it was sort of warm out. The good news was I was well dressed for it and decently prepared. I had the foresight to pack water, snacks, bug spray, sunglasses, a good hat and a well-charged cell phone. But what I hadn&#8217;t done was tell anyone where I was going (&#8220;on a hike!&#8221;) and as the trail got steeper and I got more sweaty and tired out and looked at the rest of the uphill trail as I was in a strangely-empty forest I got a sudden ping of nerves.<\/p>\n<p>I learned a weird family story when my great uncle Johnny died in 2005. He was from the branch of my dad&#8217;s family who had stayed in Vermont when everyone else moved to California or New York. I did not know him well because my dad was not a real &#8220;hang with the family&#8221; sort of guy. There was a photo of Johnny at his memorial service with his brother, my grandfather, and his own father. The caption, written by his daughter, read &#8220;Daddy, Uncle Joe and Grandpa West. Picture shot day Grandpa died on the Long Trail.&#8221; This seems like one of those stories which, if it were in your family, <strong>someone would have told you<\/strong>. But my family on that side were not great storytellers, so I didn&#8217;t know this one. Apparently <a href=\"https:\/\/www.findagrave.com\/memorial\/118622531\/joseph_thomas_west\">he&#8217;d dropped dead of a heart attack<\/a>, Johnny had stayed with the body while my grandad went to get help. It was 1932 and he was forty-five years old. That whole story sprang into my head unbidden as I scrambled up the side of a short mountain and walked across a stream I later learned was called West Branch Little River. I was on the Long Trail and I was really tired out. I wondered if I should text someone what specific subtrail I was on&#8211;at least I had great cell service&#8211;but then it felt like one of those ominous portent things and I ultimately didn&#8217;t. It wasn&#8217;t smart. I realized there is sometimes a gap between knowing the right thing to do and actually doing it.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/16174062_e3eb8753b3_c.jpg\" alt=\"a bad photo of a sideways photo in a photo album with the caption that it saysin the post. You can barely make out two men standing next to a sign saying Long Trail.\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-1706\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/16174062_e3eb8753b3_c.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/16174062_e3eb8753b3_c-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/16174062_e3eb8753b3_c-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/16174062_e3eb8753b3_c-700x525.jpg 700w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>It wound up okay, the trail started going down not up. I came back to the friendly little <a href=\"https:\/\/www.alltrails.com\/trail\/us\/vermont\/barnes-camp-loop--2\">Barnes Camp visitors center<\/a>. I sat in the shade and drank a lot of water. I showed back up to the event and saw a few faces I recognized. I introduced myself to the President of Flickr and chatted with the CFOs daughter. The endorphins of the hike gave me a little more capacity for chitchat and I enjoyed myself. Headed home before I hit a wall of tired and overpeopling. Once I got back home I told a few people about the little hike, about how it was lovely but also oddly scary in a way I didn&#8217;t expect, and how I&#8217;d tell them if I was heading out into the woods alone next time, as much a promise to myself as to them.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<a href=\"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/2024\/07\/looking-back-at-bad-decisions\" rel=\"bookmark\" title=\"Permalink to looking back at bad decisions\"><p>One of my part-time jobs is having a big company retreat at a fancy resort in Vermont. This is a good opportunity for me to meet my colleagues in real life. Since COVID I&#8217;ve curtailed my travel to nearly zero (first for COVID reasons and now mostly for save-the-planet and &#8220;I&#8217;m a homeowner now and [&hellip;]<\/p>\n<\/a>","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[678,540,15],"class_list":["post-1705","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","category-uncategorized","tag-long-trail","tag-hiking","tag-vermont","h-entry","hentry"],"share_on_mastodon":{"url":"","error":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1705","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1705"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1705\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1711,"href":"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1705\/revisions\/1711"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1705"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1705"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jessamyn.com\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1705"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}