staying in bed this Sunday

I have a heavy heart this week. A longtime friend of the family died on Tuesday. I put a photo of her up on Flickr, but otherwise I haven’t been talking about it much. Pat’s obit is here and it’s more of one than she would have had if she had gotten her druthers. I took a friend out to lunch on Friday.

I deal with grief poorly. Generally I just sort of slosh it around inside of me and usually it manifests itself as stress-related slightly-hypochondriacal random symptoms, and a lot of irritability and sleepiness. So, I’m laying in bed looking out the window at the wet trees in the backyard, realizing I’m not going to mow the lawn again this weekend and trying to make some escape-from-the-house plan before I get bogged down in endless linux upgrades and housecleaning busywork. On the other hand busywork beats moping and both of them beat more typing, so I guess I’ll wrap this up here. If you’re so inclined, it would be nice if you took a friend out to lunch.

What do you think?


  1. I’m sorry to hear of your loss.

    Please don’t be hard on yourself about how you deal with your grief. The fact that you recognize what your reactions are, shows that you are dealing better than you think.

    I’ll take a friend out to lunch. Wish it could be you!

  2. I’m so sorry – I saw your pic and post on flickr…. just let yourself be however you are being – the best thing I ever heard/learned about grief is that you have to go through it – you can’t go around it! Thinking of you and will take a friend to lunch!

  3. i’m so sorry to hear that you lost your friend. take care…